Disrespect is Growing Problem in Society
May 18, 2015
Some people say “the future is coming,” but the future is already here. Almost everything in society is new and improved including technology, education, government, living, industry, and communication. With changes to every day human life comes with changes to human behavior. The primary purpose of the improvements is to make living easier and better. In doing this, people have become ungrateful and inconsiderate of the work that has been done in the past and the present. One primary drawback of current society is the disrespect among relationships between children, adolescents, and adults.
The way people raise their children has much to do with how they were raised and the area that they live. Though people are raised with many diverse values, one common value is respect. Of course this is in the past. Many people have strayed away from the tradition in the way they were raised. It is understood that not all tradition should be up held when time changes, but the foundation of tradition should be maintained. Parents are more disengaged and uninfluential on the lives of their children resulting in less moral stability. Or one of the parents are too engaged in their children’s life, trying to be their child’s best friend and smothering them.
In today’s age, it is not uncommon for a child or teen/ young adult to be contemptuous towards an elder. Disrespect was deeply feared in the past because there would be severe consequences in result of the flippant behavior towards adults. The behavior of children today is more than just talking back. Toddlers and even small children yell orders at their parents or hit them if their desires aren’t met. Even in these circumstances, there are no parental instruction that this is not to be done again. Teenagers rebel by putting themselves in harmful situations, doing drugs, and running away. Teachers have to deal with protestant, arrogant, and rude students because children no longer have any concern for the respect of elders.
One question to ask is, “where is this path taking us?” If the negative behaviors of today’s youth has escalated so much already, the problem is going to keep growing if not addressed. An issue left unsolved does not dissipate. Adults have been personally victimized with the heinous words and physical abuse of children and adolescents. Respect has not been properly taught or enforced in a considerable amount of today’s youth and it is consequently shaping today’s society in detrimental ways.
This isn’t saying that children are these evil, disrespectful, adult-haters. Children learn a great amount from their parents. What a parent consistently does, their child will most likely to do. One of those things that children learn is disrespect. Parents themselves often use harsh and demeaning terms to talk to their children. Harsh tones, negative terms, and deconstructing criticism deeply influences how children feel towards their parents and other adults. It also affects how children associate and deal with anger. While the youth of today has a real problem with respect, so does the parental generation. If a parent wants respect, they should also respect their children.
Overall disrespect is a growing problem in society. The primary concern is how children and adolescents treat their elders and it can very well be fixed by parents observing their own behaviors and the values they enroot in their children.
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Reginald Drake • Nov 17, 2023 at 10:15 am
Just reading your thoughts 8 years later. It’s like you predicted the future. The topic arose today while in a Kingian training class. Thanks
Natalie • Dec 6, 2022 at 8:44 am
Parents don’t have a clear scheme or idea of values. Only few people nowadays plan on having children and have an idea on what their ideas of raising children will mean for the future generation. Parenting is no longer being an authoritative and nourishing figure to your children who shows them how the world works, rather, it is about being nothing but a nourishing figure who basically take commands from their offspring, which among others contributes to the increasing collective narcissism we can observe everywhere. It’s awful what is happening.
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STEVEN ROGERERER • Jun 2, 2019 at 11:53 pm
Who ever reads this and needs to hear it, Jesus loves you and he is always there for you.
Lennzington • Jun 2, 2019 at 11:51 pm
THIS IS AWESOME, YOU GUYS ARE AWEOSOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Marie • Mar 31, 2019 at 1:49 am
Ok,here goes, i haven neer seen anything like this before 4 children 2 adults the chidren range in ages 20yrs 14yrs 12yrs and a 9year old one boy the rest are girls .does girls are the most disrespectful, lazy kids i have ever seen .but here is the problem the parents are the course of the situation the kids run the show in that house no discipline,,no CONSEQUENCES at all the house is a told mess the 12year old needs to be shipped to booth camp or a juvenile the cops already hae been to the house very disrespectful toward any adult. But again i blame the parents and the outside world it sucks
Iris Sampson • Dec 26, 2018 at 7:48 pm
I think the mid 20 s generation is disrespect ful to there elders 50 or above I have a daughter 28 yrs old and she has a boyfriend who does not speak from day one if he speaks he does not look you in face he mumble s hood on his head I get in car with her he does not depart his lips I talked to my daughter about it she just agree with him she does nothing I’m her mother a elder so he not allowed in my house u til he can speak I have grandson who will know respect your elders
Nisar Aziz • Oct 18, 2017 at 11:57 pm
Why are children more disrespectful today then twenty years ago? This could be caused by a number of things. Children who feel they aren’t being herd or treated fairly. Children who feel they don’t get enough attention. And the way parents choose to discipline and raise their children. It seems to me that children’s behavior has drastically changed within the last twenty years due to parenting choices. I speculate that if parents spent more time with their children and disciplined them at a young age their behavior would not be as out of control as it is.
In today’s society parents are not spending enough time with their children, or even disciplining them. Parents could be doing things such as home work, bed time routines, or even something so little as having a meal with them. Instead parents are to busy working, watching TV or just to tired to do anything. So in result of that the children do what ever they want, which causes the negative behavior. Parents could change this by reading a book at bed time or even playing a game, even watching a movie together as a family once a week. All it takes is a little interaction with one’s child.
Trying to discipline one’s child in today’s society may be a little harder than it was twenty years ago. Twenty years ago parents were able to spank their children with out being accused of abuse. Today if a parent spanks their child their being “abusive”. society is making parents afraid to punish their children. Parents who avoid discipline harm not only the child but also society. By disciplining one’s child is teaching the child self-respect and willingness to take responsibility for their own actions. Discipline is kind of a way of showing a child that the parent cares and love them.
Uncle Iroh • Aug 3, 2017 at 3:28 am
Actually it’s a growing disrespect for tradition and, speaking scientifically, tradition is for idiots. More people are simply demanding pragmatism. Acts based on facts of reality to make situations better are going to yield more results than acts based on idealism. It’s fine to have ideals, but ignoring reality and following those ideals blindly makes you a dogmatic idiot. God forbid that people with traditionalist ideals learn information contrary to their beliefs.
E.A. • Apr 25, 2017 at 10:39 pm
OMG! JK. You should be the president of all government agencies and spoke person. Our family went through everything that you spoke about. Parents are loosing the right to raise their kids how they see fit cause a few bad parents. Out of 20 kids, they ruin 17 from good homes to save the 3 that really need to be saved from a drug infested or bad homes. Our children lied on us cause we refused to get them expensive gift for being lazy and disrespectful at home and school. They would ran away and go to friends house without permission to get a priviledge than to earn the right to have extra things that we have to listen and work hard to have. They brag how everyone believed them without investigation and due process. The broken system has broken family relationships and tearing up homes. Who wants a kid around them that feel like they can scare the parents into submission to their extreme bad behavior without very stern consequences. Not me. I told them since they know what is best for my kid then keep her cause I will not live with the monster they have created and I will not be going to jail for no brat and give up everything I work for.
Thanks for totally understanding everything. That article is a bunch of BS. A lot of us parents, respect, work hard, sacrifice our time, love and money for these ungrateful and unthankful disrespectful, horrible children. We didn’t show them anything we are getting so that article is a lie. I am begging people not to have and raise kids in the US and countries like this, spend your money and time on yourself and share with others that show you love and respect.
J. K. • Feb 13, 2017 at 3:35 pm
Your comments are too generalized and targeted toward the parents, making the parent the sacrificial lamb for society’s ease in finding and blaming the scapegoat. There are many excellent parents, raising children well, who are faced with extreme disrespect in our culture and within our society, (e.g., schools, peer groups, TV media, Hollywood violent feature films, access to the Internet and social media, even youth groups.) These anti-social environments contribute to widespread heightened oppositional behaviors among teens AND adults. It was easy to predict 35 years ago that our Great Nation would begin its anti-social decline within our communities. Observing disrespect and anti-social counter-culture, permeating our youth, encouraging and promoting out of control mayhem was palpable. Many children learn by example from peers and counter-culture “heroes’ and are easily encouraged despite the excellent backgrounds they were afforded from perceptive and insightful parenting. They find loopholes in our state funded children services that allow them channels to manipulate and maneuver ways around accountability, knowing they are immune from lying and misrepresenting facts. They quickly learn they can create false charges against their well-grounded parents with no ramifications or consequences for undermining their parents’ quality values and principles, much of which their parents learned through sacrifice and diligent work ethic. Children have their $500-plus cell phones, computers, and gadgets to live in their global la-la-land immediate gratification world. Adults are spoiled, too. It has promoted reckless corruption. Anti-parent sentiment has penetrated our churches and communities, which has spawned sanctuary for the criminal, at the expense of those who obey law and are godly in their daily living. Chaos is the end upshot from this lawlessness. State law has removed God’s law in our schools and public spaces. This is the first Marxist approach to divide and conquer families and it is successfully destroying the family by design and without a hitch. Parents are limited, as we struggle to bring our coddled children to familial ground. We cannot do it alone. It does take a village to raise a child. Children are inherently asking for correction and reprimand from society. They are angry because they are confused and overlooked. Children sense the indifference of those, who would otherwise be reaching out and making a difference. It is good and strong to say, “No!” to a child. “Now” will be said countless times in a child’s life. The child innately wants to hear that word because it represents concern. Children are receiving mixed messages from different decision makers. God’s Fourth Commandment, Thou Shalt Honor Thy Mother and Father, serves as law that everyone should honor – not just our children. It’s preeminent standing is underscored because without it, society will fall. The law does not command, Thou Shalt Honor Thy Teacher, or Minister, or Priest, or Policeman. It is a fundamental law that is being eroded from our culture. That is the root problem of our culture. Church, State, the Public Educational Complex must not undermine the parent. If we are permitted to raise our children, knowing we will be supported by our communities, our children will feel safer. That is not the case now. Like back in the day, Mr. Wilson would bring Dennis the Menace home to his parents. Or the policeman would bring ‘Johnny’ home to his parents with a good, firm talking to, to boot!. Not anymore! Instead, “Johnny’ is encouraged and even invited to write up a surreptitious false report about how “awful’ Mom and Dad are and Mom and Dad are subsequently put on trial for their sacrifice of loving and raising their child. My, my…what have we created? A monster community – that’s what!